Some Questions Lead to Beautiful Answers...
Joe lavin
My client asked me how I would describe our Primal Unwinding session and I replied, "Like a celestial dance." Later, I unpacked that a bit more....
I would describe
our unwinding
as a celestial dance.
Where I
orbited
you
coming in
closer
for
deeper work
connection
Then
I would
move away
creating space
As if you were
a fixed object
the constant
and I was
an orbiting star
destined to follow
my preordained
gravitational orbit
around your
body
somehow knowing
understanding
how the
forces of
inertia and gravity
have to be
perfectly balanced
for an orbit to happen
a continuous
tug-of-war
between
two objects
two beings
one needing to
move away
so the other one
can move closer
and in between
a breath
then the roles
changing
in order
to maintain
the balance
the tension
But now I am
unsettled
with my
poetic analogy
not because
it is incorrect
or inappropriate
instead
because I realize
that the moments
I crave the most
are the brief seconds
in between
when we are
changing roles
when we are
most connected
most equal
our energies
joining and relaxing
becoming as one
Just before
we are propelled
once again
into our
separate orbits
To continue
the dance
we started…
For those that are interested or concerned, most of my Prinal Unwinding sessions are not part of my licensed massage practice so I am not limited to the same therapeutic relationship guidelines as well as the professional, emotional and social boundaries that I am in my massage practice. Although I understand their purpose and may choose to use them with some clients. There are other boundaries that apply to both my bodywork and massage that are important power differential, transference
*Picture from the book cover of Dance of the Ancient One

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I took my daughter to the zoo the other day. We waited with the other people to see the cheetah walk out and stood in amazement as the cheetah did, well, nothing really. She just walked around, looked at us and then laid down. I imagined the cheetah wondering why there were people here to see her again, She didn’t feel that special. She had no idea what she was really made for, how fast she could run, what it felt like to be free, what a fierce predator she could be. She just had some sense that this crowd of spectators was interested in her so she should show up again, like she does every other day.

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It is 2021 and it is time for me to start sharing more of my thoughts about massage, bodywork and life with anyone who is interested. I do a lot of writing to process my thoughts about touch as well as my massage and bodywork experiences. Most of the time these writings end up living only in my journal or on my computer and I would like to give them a little more life, see how they blossom...or wither.